Be Communicative About Sex

Once you’ve reached the point in the relationship where you’re both having sex, be as open as possible. Communicate your needs and desires, and be open to what your partner finds sexy in the bedroom.

-Estelle
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Remember Important Dates

Remembering birthdays and anniversaries are a must. If it means setting a very loud alarm on your PDA or highlighting the specific date on a calendar that you put in every corner of your apartment, do it. Do you know what sort of hell will be unleashed if you forget someone’s birthday? It’s not good, to say the least.

-Estelle
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Don’t Make Comparisons

No date you ever have is going to be perfect. If you and you’re new partner are having a date that’s less than exciting, don’t draw comparisons of other dates or times that were better or more fun. Enjoy each date for what it is and what it has to offer.

-Estelle
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Keep Up Your Appearance

 Even if you’re settled into a routine with someone you’ve been dating for a few months, it doesn’t mean you have permission to be sloppy. Besides, people who look good usually feel good, too, and as we already covered, that does wonders for any relationship.

-Estelle
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Do More Than Just Look Good

Don’t just look good, smell good, too. Attraction isn’t just about looks; it’s about how all the five senses respond to someone. So be sure to check your breath and armpits before stepping out on a date. And don’t empty the fragrance bottle in one sitting! Make sure you always smell good, if not great.

-Estelle
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Don't Do This Too Soon

Don’t be too comfortable too soon. You know who pees with the door open? Couples who have been together for decades and decades. You wouldn’t want to freak out your date with some odd manners and kiss that person goodbye. Leave some things for your latter years together.

-Estelle
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Advice For When Friends & Family Try to Set You Up on a Date

Date for you and nobody else. A lot of singles are bombarded by friends and family to date people they normally wouldn’t. Just because people keep trying to set you up, doesn’t mean you have to go out with anyone. The dating process is for you and you shouldn’t be dating unless you’re ready and with whom you choose.

-Estelle
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If It's Real Love, Do This

When you know it’s for real, then let the others go. If you’ve been dating a couple different people, but finally realize that one of them is the one you definitely want to be with, then end things with the others immediately. Love with one person can’t happen if you’re still hanging on to others who no longer fit into the equation.

-Estelle
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Don't Date Again Until You Are Completely Over Your Ex

Finish one chapter before moving on. Even if you’ve been dating someone for a few weeks or months, if you’re still hanging onto a past love, then you need to actively close that chapter of your past. You can’t expect your new relationship to evolve in a positive way and without drama, if you’re still stuck on someone else.

-Estelle
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A Healthy You, Means a Healthy Relationship

The best way to keep your relationship healthy outside of the obvious like communication and honesty is also by taking care of yourself. If you’re emotionally, mentally and physically healthy, your relationships with others will follow suit.

-Estelle
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Keep Your Relationship From Being Boring

Variety is the spice of life. Whether it’s in your dates, in the bedroom or your daily routine, try to always keep things spicy. Never be afraid to try something new, go someplace you’ve never been before or suggest something out of your everyday behavior. If you’re always one step ahead of keeping things from being boring, your relationship will flourish and not become stagnant.

-Estelle
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Don't Be Afraid of Doing This While Dating

Don’t be afraid to argue. Couples who never argue are either in denial or too afraid to rock the boat. Confrontation and occasional disagreements are part of every healthy relationship.

-Estelle
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Good Advice on How to Relate to Your Date's Friends

Don’t be too friendly with their friends. It’s great if you get along with your partner’s friends, but remember that they’re their friends and if you’re too friendly it could lead to paranoia and suspicion. Besides, you have your own friends with whom you can be extra chummy.

-Estelle
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Dating Advice: Learn to Cook

Learn to cook. Why? Because it’s sexy! If you can whip up a meal for your partner at the drop of a hat, that’s not only useful but also impressive. Anyone ever seen the kitchen scene in 9 ½ weeks??

-Estelle

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Be Supportive and Don't Kill Your Partner's Dreams

Be on their side, especially while in public!! Always be your partner’s cheering squad. This goes beyond just supporting them, but actually cheering them on in whatever choices or decisions they make, or whatever situations come their way.

-Estelle
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Tolerance and Relationships

Grow some tolerance. There will eventually come a time when those quirks you once found so endearing may actually start to drive you crazy. Before you start getting mean about it, work on your tolerance level. Every relationship goes through different phases and you need to be able to tolerate each one as it comes along.

-Estelle
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For a Healthy Relationship, Do This

Make decisions together. Whether it’s plans for the holidays, a weekend away or what you’ll be making for dinner this weekend, remember that as a partnership there should be two people making decisions. Don’t try to dominate the decision making process.

-Estelle
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Don't Lose Your Identity, What Makes You YOU!

Don’t become your partner. Sometimes when people spend a lot of time together, they tend to lose sense of their own identity. Always be aware of who you are and don’t try to take on the traits of your partner.

-Estelle
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Doing This Too Soon Could Be Trouble

Don’t pop the “L-word” too early. The fastest way to send someone running is to tell them you love them too early in a relationship. Really weigh the pros and cons of what saying that means, before you throw a wrench in something that’s been sailing along smoothly.

-Estelle
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Learn to Share the Bed Again.

If you’ve been without a partner for a long time and you’ve reached the phase in your relationship where sleepovers are in the new future, you may want to learn how to share your bed again. It may be difficult after a long hiatus, after a little practice you’ll remember that the covers are now for two people and not just one.

-Estelle
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Escaping a Bad First Date

Bad date? End it graciously. Although it usually only happens in bad movies with impossible endings, if you should find yourself in an absolutely horrible date where you’re being insulting or are uncomfortable in any way, you don’t have to stick it out until the end. Instead, politely and with grace, say thank for the evening and leave. You may even get home in time to catch 30 Rock.

-Estelle
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This Kind of Dating Advice Does More Harm Than Good

Never read advice from online dating sites (fyi – Estelle Matchmaking is NOT a dating site, but a matrimonial agency!). Seriously, just don’t. All online dating sites want to do is make you feel bad about being single and try to get you to join. It’s even a little known fact that the statistics they use on some of those sites aren’t even real.

-Estelle
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Be Honest and Upfront About This

If marriage isn’t your eventual intent, be honest. Even those who are looking for a serious relationship may not want to get married especially if they already have a divorce under their belt. If your intention is to never get married again, you need to be up front about that. Some people, no matter how many times they’ve been married, will try and try again. If you’re not one of them, you better be honest about it.

-Estelle
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Relationship Advice: Never Forget This

Give and take. Both literally and metaphorically, relationships, whether they’re old or new, are all about giving and taking. Never forget that.

-Estelle
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If Something Bothers You Don't Try To Hide It

Never hide any resentment. If you have any resentment toward your partner, you need to be upfront about them. Trying to dismiss something that you’re actually resenting is just fuel for a fiery explosion in the future.

-Estelle
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Arguing or Debating With Your Date? This Never Works.

The silent treatment never works. If you find yourself in a slight debate or argument, remember that the silent treat never works. Be clear about your reasons for the argument and your feelings regarding it. In other words: communicate, communicate, communicate!

-Estelle
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Go Out of Your Way and Do This

Make them appreciate you. Always be thinking of ways that you can be appreciated by the person you’re dating. If it means going out of your way from time to time or doing something as simple as removing a piece of lint from their shirt.

-Estelle
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Don't Over-Analyze Your Date

Don’t be a therapist. Just because you’re dating someone and think you know them pretty well, don’t be a therapist. There should be a line of just how much over-analyzing you’re allowed to do in a relationship as well as limiting things that shouldn’t interfere with the two of you. Professional therapists exist for a reason; so don’t try to be one to your partner.

-Estelle

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Jealousy in Dating

Never be jealous. Whether it comes to your partner’s friends, family or even co-workers, don’t ever exhibit any jealousy. You had a life before you started dating this person and so did they; you can’t expect them to give up everyone and all their time for you.

-Estelle
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Dating Advice: Be Neat and Tidy

Be tidy. Not only should your personal appearance be clean and neat, but your home should be as well. If you’re in the beginning stages of a relationship, you don’t want to bring someone back to your place if it’s filthy and scattered. Either you plan ahead and clean up if you think you may bring your date home or you wait until next time.

-Estelle
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Dating Advice: Men and Women, Never Stop Doing This

Never stop courting. Whether you’ve been dating someone for a few weeks, a few months, or a few years, remember that you should never stop courting. It’s romantic and never ceases to prove that you’re still really interested and smitten. It stands for both Men and Women. It only takes a few minutes to send a little note in the mail, or write a short poem and leave it on her/his pillow, maybe send a bouquet of flowers or bake a few cookies.

-Estelle
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Some of the Best Dates Are the Ones Where You Do This

Be a kid again. Sometimes the best dates are the ones where you allow yourself to be a kid again. If you’re walking along and see a park with swings, then go for a swing with your date! Be spontaneous and realize you’re never too old to have the fun you had when you were seven.

-Estelle
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Dating Advice: Avoid Temptation

Avoid temptation. If your last relationship ended because you cheated, then now’s the time to re-evaluate not only your new relationship, but also yourself. If you have a hard time resisting temptation then don’t put yourself in situations that could lead to you making another mistake.

-Estelle
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Facebook Can Ruin Your Relationship If You Don't Do This

Be an adult on Facebook. A study in Britain found that a decent amount of divorces could be attributed to behavior on Facebook. Since the majority of us are on Facebook or other social media, don’t do anything (like flirting with an ex for all to see!) to jeopardize your new relationship. I’ll say it again: be an adult.

-Estelle
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Dating Advice: Never Snoop

Respect privacy. If you’ve been dating someone for awhile, this doesn’t give you the right to invade someone’s privacy. Checking the cell phone or email of anyone you’re dating is an absolute no-no, even if you think something shady may be going on. Open communication is far better than being sneaky.

-Estelle
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Dating Advice: Don't Be A Player

Don’t be a player. You’re an adult not a 17-year-old.Even if you’re dating more than one person at a particular time, be conscious of how that might affect whom you’re dating and their opinions about you. Players are the type of people who end up alone in the end.

Dating Advice: Everyone is Different

Remember that not all women or all men are the same. Some women like funny men, while others go for a more brooding type. Learn to accept that just because your favorite joke that usually gets your dates laughing might not have the same effect on everyone. Realizing that everyone is different and brings different aspects of themselves to a date is the best way to avoid disappointment. Don’t worry, someone else may find that joke funny again someday!

-Estelle
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Dating Advice: Don't Pretend to Be Someone Else

If you’re not a “bad boy/girl,” don’t pretend to be one. Let’s say your date admits they usually date a “bad” boy, don’t try to all of a sudden fit into that mold as some sort of way to win her over. Be who you are and don’t put on airs.  

Here's another blog post about being true to yourself.

-Estelle
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