Dating Advice: First Date Conversation Tip

When some of us are nervous, we speed up our speech. A key to conversation success and appearing confident (even if your nerves are about to burst!) is slowing down on the talking front. If you come off high-strung or that you’ve overdosed on espresso, the intensity could be misread and could even make your date feel equally anxious.

Learn to listen to yourself talk and when you notice that you might be getting too fast for anyone besides you to understand, slow it down. There’s no sense in frothing at the mouth because you’re trying to get everything you want to say out in some sort of record time.

-Estelle
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Estelle is the president/owner of Estelle Matchmaking, LLC a boutique matchmaking service for selective singles in the NYC area (including Westchester and Fairfield Counties) and South Florida.

Give Your Date Room to Speak

Studies have proven that for most people their favorite topic of conversation is themselves. You may think you’ve had the most fascinating life and you’re just sharing, but give your date room to speak, too. A conversation is dialogue made up of more than one person; if you monopolize the situation, you’re pretty much just talking to yourself and coming off self-involved, as well. Frankly, if that’s how you want to spend your night—talking about yourself only—you could have just spared your date and stayed home. Walls are great for one-way conversations.

-Estelle
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Estelle is the president/owner of Estelle Matchmaking, LLC a boutique matchmaking service for selective singles in the NYC area (including Westchester and Fairfield Counties) and South Florida.