A few days ago you went on a date with a woman, and you thought you both had a great time. The next day you left her a message telling her that you enjoyed her company and that you would like to take her out again soon.
But well… she isn’t getting back to you or is declining the invitation without further explanation.
What happened?
You can’t figure it out. You’re starting to think that maybe it was the voicemail you left. Were you supposed to wait two days before calling? Did you sound too excited, borderline “desperate”??
Chances are it’s something else.
It may be that you failed to emotionally connect with your date.
When a woman leaves a date, she needs to know something about you that makes her feel “connected” to you. You need to share something emotional with her -- a moment, a laugh, an experience.
Men feel connected by sharing activities; women feel connected by sharing stories, words and emotions.
When you go on your next date, ask yourself, "What three things did I learn about her?" and "What did I share about myself with her?" These answers form the basis for a relationship.
One way is to start paying attention to the details of what she tells you. Remember the name of her pet, where she grew up, her last ski trip, what kind of food she enjoys. Remembering your conversations is key. Take notes if you have to!! Then next time you may ask to take her to that little Italian restaurant she mentioned.
This is how you show that you are not the average Joe, but someone special, someone who cares and is connected to her.
-Estelle
Estelle is the president/owner of Estelle Matchmaking, LLC a boutique matchmaking service for selective singles in the NYC area (including Westchester and Fairfield Counties) and South Florida.
